Anger - The Farcical Emotion

Funny how break ups in relationships/friendships/family ties are blamed on anger. Far too easily.

People respond to negativity in their lives with many feelings: anger, anxiety, outrage, self- doubt. They may be hostile-lashing out at those closest to them. Or, they may become moody and depressed. Their tension may show up as restlessness, loss of appetite, loss of interest in sex, insomnia, and feelings of apathy and exhaustion. While some of these symptoms may be unpleasant, they are normal, predictable reactions of people experiencing a loss or critical change in their lives. They choose to find flaws and point them out ever so readily.

Recognizing these strong feelings, understanding why they may be present, and dealing with them in positive ways is important. Refusing to accept your feelings can lead to physical and emotional problems.

The first step to accepting feelings is to sort out and identify your feelings. Some feelings--often those that are painful--may become so buried you may not even be aware they exist.

Anger Has Many Causes

One of the first feelings you will probably identify is anger. Anger is a powerful emotion that is often viewed negatively. Unchecked, it can escalate into a rage that may erupt in damaging emotional outbursts or be unleashed on family members.

Unchecked anger can be an emotional "time bomb" exploding when triggered by little things such as a glass of spilled milk or a spouse asking how the job hunt went today.

Looking beyond the anger, you may begin to uncover many other emotions hidden underneath. Anger may stem from feelings of failure, being unappreciated, exploited, manipulated, uncared for, or humiliated. It may be caused by feelings of helplessness, worthlessness, frustration, anxiety, guilt, fear, or resentment.

Once you begin to look at the variety of feelings behind the anger and to understand the hidden feelings, you can find ways to express your feelings positively.
Getting Rid of Your Anger


* Look behind your anger. Remember exactly where you were when you first felt it. Who was with you? How did you feel at the time?

* Ask yourself if your anger is reasonable. Are you expecting too much from yourself or someone else? Are you looking at your situation objectively?

* Look at your reaction to the anger. Was the behaviour justified? Did it increase your stress level or threaten your relationship with those around you? If so, look immediately for more appropriate ways to discharge your anger. Talk to others about your feelings, change what you can about your situation, view it more realistically, or use relaxation techniques to vent your stress. For details, see EC 1399, Living Better With Stress.

* Anger is often fueled by blame. Blaming yourself or others is a way of avoiding the real problem. The energy you spend blaming could be better spent on working to understand your feelings.

Anger is for the weak, the unenlightened, the poor, the needy. Acceptance gives strength. Strength for a better tomorrow.

Why does God get blamed for the bad stuff and forgotten once it's all good? WTH!

James 1:13-18, Don't Blame God

I'm tired, I'm sleepy, I'm actually really angry - but I've gone about life these days filtering out the idiots in front and around me, to the best of my ability. But when I hear people saying that they're holding God accountable for the bad stuff, instead of being thankful for the good - I can't help but get pissed off. Partially at myself too, because I was once bordering on questioning the 'Big Man' above. Don't get me wrong, I'm not religious, as you may already know.

For example, millions of planes fly safely every day. No one thanks God that all the planes safely carried passengers through the skies. But one plane crashes and everyone screams at God. People do not "blame" God for the good things that happen in life. However, God is to blame when any one thing goes wrong. The same thing is true in the face of trials and suffering. We do not thank God for all the good times or for what we have had up to this point. We simply cry out, "Why, God!" when we go through difficulties.

When one of your loved ones is in in critical condition, saying that you THIS is your make of break of your faith, trying to test God's powers is an act of sheer ignorance and stupidity. Whether he was able to part seas, resurrect Himself, speak from a burning tree or kill of the dinosaurs - when you gotta go, you gotta go!

I wasn't around for my paternal grandma's passing, which clearly messed me up in MANY ways for a couple of years, but I was very thankful for having spent my life with her during her more lucid moments, which she remembered. She had lived her life, and instead of prolonging her torture, the Good Lord brought her back to Him. Giving thanks, I feel, is more in place than playing the blame game. In essence, people are stupid to blame an entity they're not about to believe in any more. Food for thought eh?

It is amazing how God gets blamed for every bad thing, but is ignored for every good thing.

James was meant to teach us to quit blaming God as the cause of trials and temptations.
James probably died trying. And there was nothing anyone could do.

Are Science and Religion Compatible?

There's a great divide between Science and Religion. Most, if not ALL scientist believe in the theory of Evolution. But that's just it - it's a theory. No one person can come out and claim they know EXACTLY how we came to be. Yes, there's many cases of evidence and truth pointing to the Big Bang theory etc. But nothing can be sure, because no one can go back in time.

Religion, on the other hand, points to a greater power that had a serious hand how we have come to be. But, the same Religion(s) have taken put their own spin on ALOT of things pertaining to our existence and our lives (how we should and should not live them)

We can and probably will go on debating this forever. My take is simple. There's a middle ground to EVERYTHING. Till both sides can mature and accept change, instead of being stuck in their own foolish mentalities, my view from the centre is perfect. Thoroughly entertaining I might add!